5 out of 5. I would recommend this book to any woman frustrated with the message the world is sending them today. And who is even more perturbed with the message seemingly Christian influencers like Rachel Hollis, Jen Hatmaker, and Glennon Doyle are sending them today.
Description (from Amazon.com): “We’re told that the key to happiness is self-love. But the promise doesn’t deliver. The truth is we can’t find satisfaction inside ourselves because we are the problem. The answer to our insufficiency and insecurity isn’t self-love, but God’s love.”
Allie’s Eating Disorder: Bulimia
A few places in the book, Stuckey talks about a past eating disorder and how it was an attempt to love herself: “I think part of my motivation for my weight loss was wanting to somehow make up for how unattractive and unwanted I felt in that moment [a breakup]. I thought that if I were skinnier, I’d be more lovable. The attention I got from guys as a freshly single girl affirmed that mentality.” (pg. 58) “I’d convinced myself that being skinny was the thing making these new friends and flings possible.” (pg. 22)
I want to hear more about her eating disorder because it sounds similar to my own story — I thought if I were skinny, I would fit in. Skinny meant love for me. I was trying to fix all of my problems by changing my weight. I thought I was loving myself and becoming my best self when I was destroying myself.
I don’t think eating disorders are often addressed this way — from the aspect of self-love. You might think that an eating disorder is a form of self-hatred, but that isn’t the case. It is inherently selfish, just like self-love. From the lies that we tell ourselves to the actions we take in the name of thinness, an eating disorder is all about becoming our best selves. In a twisted way, it’s all about self-love.
Stuckey is real and raw with her eating disorder. I think she does an excellent job of debunking some of the lies society tells us about self-love when it comes to eating disorders and the lies we tell ourselves through our eating disorders.