Girl, Stop Apologizing: Behavior 2

Renae Nicole
5 min readAug 14, 2020

A Chapter by Chapter Review of Girl, Stop Apologizing by Rachel Hollis

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The subtitle of Girl, Stop Apologizing is “A Shame-Free Plan For Embracing and Achieving Your Goals,” so I approached the book as encouragement for entrepreneurs. It is for women who want to start businesses and make money. The second behavior Hollis suggests adopting is “choose one dream and go all in.”

I related to this behavior — and the need to adopt it. I have so many dreams that it seems my head is always in the clouds. I have learned over the years that I can’t do everything, so I pruned my goals. The advice in this chapter wasn’t particularly helpful to me.

One massive problem with this chapter is Hollis mixes pursuing dreams and personal growth. The two aren’t necessarily interchangeable. Ideas are goals you wish to accomplish, like starting an Etsy business or cleaning your parent’s house. Personal growth is working on a characteristic like stopping biting nails or working out regularly. Dreams often have an ending, while personal growth lasts a lifetime. Hollis uses both actions interchangeably, which makes some counseling confusing and renders other advice unusable.

The Good

“When everything is important, nothing is important.” (97)
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“We’re not looking for perfection; we’re looking for consistency.” (105) Progress, not perfection, is my motto, so I love it when others have the same rules!

“You’ve also got to know why you want it so badly. You need to define why it must be yours and use it as leverage to motivate yourself when you want to give up.” (105)

“You have to have the leverage — you have to know your why — or you will never make a change. You have to know what to focus on, or you will never make progress.” (107)

The Bad

“I mean that when you think about it, your heart beats faster and your palms get sweaty like an Eminem song.

Mom’s spaghetti.

Many people won’t get the Eminem joke I just make, but that’s okay. Three people…

Renae Nicole

Certified Personal Trainer | Health Coach | Nutrition Coach | Worldview: Christianity